We are where we are because of the decisions we’ve made in the past, and where we end up in five years will be a consequence of the decisions we make now and in the future ahead. When you boil it down, achievement is decision making, yes or no, right or wrong, invest or opt-out, they all have an influence on our future.
Decision making is a valued skill, and rightly so, but to get somewhere decent I don’t actually think the decisions are that hard, it’s not about finding the right answer, it’s about making the right decision. If you’ve got some self-limiting beliefs and you don’t know that it’s possible then you might not know the right answer, but if you know that you can, then why the heck wouldn’t you? Well here’s my best answer: It’s a question of Integrity vs Easy, the serial killer of dreams.
Why wouldn’t you go running? I look okay and the couch looks even better.
Why not learn some new skills? Well, I seem to be coping fine right now so there’s no need!
How about making extra time for your loved one? He/She’s fine, I’m fine, no point!
If you’ve ever said something similar, I’m almost certain that you were lying to yourself. Please, for the sake of your future, be truthful to yourself.
Have the courage to say no. Have the courage to face the truth. Do the right thing because it is right. These are the magic keys to living your life with integrity. - William Clement Stone
If you’re one of those people who asks ‘why’ when it comes to improving who you are, I’ve got a better question: why not? Why not be even fitter than you were before? Why not become more knowledgeable and make more money? Why not have a more intimate relationship with your loved one?
It’s Too Easy Not To
I think this ties in with our instant-gratification culture, we want the best [looking] thing and we want it now, that might be the thing that tastes the nicest, looks the nicest or feels the nicest. The problem here is that the best decision is the hardest one. It may not taste the best and it might not look that great either, but the hardest choice is always the best.
The wall of Integrity vs Easy is the filter of greatness, those who make the easiest and worst decisions won’t be let past – simply because they’re not worthy of the rewards beyond.
The important thing to remember is that the wall doesn’t judge, similarly like a sieve doesn’t judge a piece of flour that’s too big. If you previously made bad decisions and then change your ways, the wall will gladly let you through and enable you to feast on some of the treasures.
We All Fail
Just because the wall gets the better of you on one occasion certainly doesn’t mean that it will get you the next. It might, but if you keep trying the law of averages will work in your favour. The worst thing to do is sit back down after the first failure, and I think that’s fairly common knowledge.
Me? I’ve failed lots, sometimes I’ve left my values stand for too long or I’ve let some slip while I chase after others, and that’s just 2! But that’s in the past, and by making better decisions in the future I know I can be better. I also know that I’m going to fail some more, a heck of a lot more, but that’s good! The more failures I meet means that I’ll meet even more successes, and that’s ultimately what I’m after.
I’m interested to know where this wall stands with you. Do you consciously try to make the right decisions, simply because they’re right? Let me know!