If I took the over-confident, I can do anything and I need nobody approach to life, I think the front door would be enough to stop me. Why? I’m far to lazy to keep myself going, and if (and when) I ever hit a struggle, I’d fill my own head with lies on how it’s okay to sit back down on the couch.
First off, let’s clear some things up: To preserve a bit of self-image – I do get up in the dark hours of the morning to farmers walk around a muddy field, but I can still think of too many times where I fill moments with nothing but useless procrastination, and that hurts. Oh, and I rarely sit on the couch, if I do it’d normally be to read. Now back to the point: I’m still lazy and don’t trust myself.
But if you don’t trust yourself, then who else?
Who To Trust
For me it started about a month ago, I was invited by a good blogging friend to join an accountability group with one other whom I also admire. As far as I’m aware, they are the only two people who know the ins and outs of what I’m actually up to, and they are the ones I trust instead of myself. I wouldn’t quite call it a mastermind group, instead of going in the same direction together, we keep each other going onward and upward in our own directions.
So what do they do for me? Well, for a start they aren’t babysitting me and they don’t do much directly to help me, like looking over my shoulder every 10 minutes. But believe you me the indirect help is enormous.
They keep me accountable, and I’ll do the same for them. Personally, I feel like I’ve got to deliver results. A simple document was set up to write down what was achieved in the last week, what will be achieved next week and what we learnt, among a few other things. I don’t want to see my goal of doing item x 5 times a day, and then have to fill it in with numbers that no one wants to read.
It’s not quite the prison that I’m putting it out to be, but it certainly helps to keep myself on track with me and my goals, but most importantly – it’s a chance to grow. That’s only one side of the coin though, I seriously enjoy seeing and hearing about what they’re doing. Not only are they pursuing über interesting goals, but they both inspire and motivate me to keep the train moving.
If you don’t have anyone but yourself to stay accountable to, I’d highly recommend you fix that. I think everyone is willing to disappoint themselves when it comes to results, but if others are involved it gives you that extra urge to deliver.
Do you already have a set of people who you stay accountable to? How does that work out? If you don’t, maybe you’d like to give it a go, and let me know what you think!